Rhythms of Retreat

Written by Nathan LaGrange
August 14, 2025

What comes to mind when you think of the word retreat? I (Nathan) recently spoke at a men’s breakfast and asked that very question. The answers were as diverse as the men in the room. Chances are you probably have some varied responses too. Are they biblical or cultural? 

As I stood up to speak, elderly war veterans and seasoned professionals were sitting on my left, young fathers corralling kids on my far right right, and in the middle, well, middle aged men just like me.
 
Funny how rooms self-select.
 
The seasoned spoke up first. “Retreat? We’ll never surrender! No white flags for us. It’s a sign of weakness!”
 
The young fathers, now with kids off in another room, said ”Retreat? Please! Sounds like a getaway. A cabin in the woods. No phones. A moment without chaos. Silence without distraction.”
 
And the guys in the middle? They were pulled in both directions, not wanting to seem weak to their elderly counterparts, but salivating at the invitation from their younger friends. 
 
How would Jesus view the word retreat? Better yet, did Jesus engage in retreat? I’ll provide a number of New Testament passages below for your consideration but I think I can sum up like this: Retreat was a regular, necessary and joyful rhythm as Jesus advanced the Kingdom of God here on earth. And we might be wise to imitate His pattern.
 
With all Jesus had going on (saving the world is a pretty big task), He OFTEN withdrew to lonely places. I looked up the Greek for often, and it means “often”. 🙂 Like regularly. Jesus stayed constantly connected with the heart of His father by consistently disconnecting from everything else. 
 
What does daily retreat look like for you? When do you set aside regular time to disconnect from responsibilities and reconnect with the refreshing heart of your Father? Maybe it’s a favorite chair in the early morning hours with your Bible, devotional, or journal. Maybe it’s a walk in nature after work. Maybe it’s multiple moments a day where are you disconnect for a few moments and remind yourself of God’s grace, love and provision.
 
Retreat can be episodic, taking multiple days away to refresh and renew. Scheduling these on a quarterly or annual basis can serve as monumental markers, grace-filled reminders and moments of refreshing that prayerfully transform the rest of your calendar year.
 
But if you don’t regularly engage in daily retreat, those big episodic moments can be like spiritual whiplash. Better to recharge at regular intervals and stay filled with the presence of God. It makes those episodic moments so much sweeter.
 
Retreating to advance is a cultural contradiction but a biblical invitation. Again, I invite you to read through the references below, prayerfully carve out intentional retreat in your regular rhythm and watch God transform your life, love leadership and legacy. 
 
 
 

Bible References:
Jesus Tempted in the Wilderness:
Matthew 4:1-2 – 1 Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil.2 And after fasting forty days and forty nights, he was hungry.
Mark 1:12-13 – 12 The Spirit immediately drove him out into the wilderness. 13 And he was in the wilderness forty days, being tempted by Satan. And he was with the wild animals, and the angels were ministering to him.
Luke 4:1-2 – 1 And Jesus, full of the Holy Spirit, returned from the Jordan and was led by the Spirit in the wilderness 2 for forty days, being tempted by the devil. And he ate nothing during those days. And when they were ended, he was hungry.

After Jesus cleanses a Leper:
Mark 1:45 – But he [the leper] went out and began to talk freely about it, and to spread the news, so that Jesus could no longer openly enter a town, but was out in desolate places, and people were coming to him from every quarter.
Luke 5:15-16 – 15 But now even more the report about him went abroad, and great crowds gathered to hear him and to be healed of their infirmities. 16 But he would withdraw to desolate places and pray.

Jesus Seeks Retreat after Learning of John the Baptist’s Death:
Matthew 14:13 – Now when Jesus heard this, he withdrew from there in a boat to a desolate place by himself. But when the crowds heard it, they followed him on foot from the towns.
Mark 6:30-32 – The apostles returned to Jesus and told him all that they had done and taught.  And he said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while.“  For many were coming and going, and they had no leisure even to eat.  And they went away in the boat to a desolate place by themselves.
Luke 9:10 – On their return the apostles told him all that they had done. And he took them and withdrew apart to a town called Bethsaida.
John 6:1 – After this Jesus went away to the other side of the Sea of Galilee, which is the Sea of Tiberias.

After Feeding the Five Thousand (Just before Jesus Walks on Water):
Matthew 14:22-23 – 22 Immediately he made the disciples get into the boat and go before him to the other side, while he dismissed the crowds. 23 And after he had dismissed the crowds, he went up on the mountain by himself to pray. When evening came, he was there alone.
Mark 6:45-47 – 45 Immediately he made his disciples get into the boat and go before him to the other side, to Bethsaida, while he dismissed the crowd. 46 And after he had taken leave of them, he went up on the mountain to pray. 47And when evening came, the boat was out on the sea, and he was alone on the land.
John 6:15 – Perceiving then that they were about to come and take him by force to make him king, Jesus withdrew again to the mountain by himself.

The Transfiguration:
Matthew 17:1-2 – 1 And after six days Jesus took with him Peter and James, and John his brother, and led them up a high mountain by themselves. 2 And he was transfigured before them, and his face shone like the sun, and his clothes became white as light.
Mark 9:2 – And after six days Jesus took with him Peter and James and John, and led them up a high mountain by themselves. And he was transfigured before them
Luke 9:28-29 – 28 Now about eight days after these sayings he took with him Peter and John and James and went up on the mountain to pray. 29 And as he was praying, the appearance of his face was altered, and his clothing became dazzling white.

Jesus Prays in the Garden at Gethsemane on the Night He is Betrayed:
Matthew 26:36 – Then Jesus went with them to a place called Gethsemane, and he said to his disciples, “Sit here, while I go over there and pray.”
Mark 14:32 – And they went to a place called Gethsemane. And he said to his disciples, “Sit here while I pray.”
Luke 22:39-41 – 39 And he came out and went, as was his custom, to the Mount of Olives, and the disciples followed him. 40 And when he came to the place, he said to them, “Pray that you may not enter into temptation.” 41 And he withdrew from them about a stone’s throw, and knelt down and prayed.

Mark 1:35 – And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed.

Mark 4:10 – And when he was alone, those around him with the twelve asked him about the parables.

Luke 4:42-43 – 42 And when it was day, he departed and went into a desolate place. And the people sought him and came to him, and would have kept him from leaving them, 43 but he said to them, “I must preach the good news of the kingdom of God to the other towns as well; for I was sent for this purpose.” 

Luke 6:12-13 – 12 In these days he went out to the mountain to pray, and all night he continued in prayer to God. 13 And when day came, he called his disciples and chose from them twelve, whom he named apostles.

Luke 9:18-20 – 18 Now it happened that as he was praying alone, the disciples were with him. And he asked them, “Who do the crowds say that I am?” 19 And they answered, “John the Baptist. But others say, Elijah, and others, that one of the prophets of old has risen.” 20 Then he said to them, “But who do you say that I am?” And Peter answered, “The Christ of God.”

John 11:54 – Jesus therefore no longer walked openly among the Jews, but went from there to the region near the wilderness, to a town called Ephraim, and there he stayed with the disciples.